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What Is Sexy: Part Three

In just a couple of days, on May 22, you’ll see The Outside Lane featured on theNickelodeon Parents Connect Sexy Mama Boot Camp.  Leading up to that, I’d like to introduce you (and any new readers) to some things I think are sexy.

1.  Finding new ways to make old things beautiful is sexy.

Bridal bouquet made of brooches from The Vintage Texan

Oh my word.  Jennifer Green is another neighbor of mine who is the artisan behind The Vintage Texan blog and corresponding etsy store.  When she told me about her work, I got very excited.  When I saw her work?  I wanted to get married all over again just so I could have a brooch bouquet!  Jennifer says, ” I specialize in taking old thing and turning them into new. I try to bring back the old traditions of canning, and lately I have started selling my vintage brooch bouquets. Each bouquet is handcrafted by me by using items that normally people would just throw away. I use brooches, earrings, and just about anything shiny that people “love”. I am growing this to include several other items such as vintage brooch cake toppers, brooch boutonnieres, picture frames and other things vintage.”   You HAVE to look at her site, and if you know any brides-to-be, you MUST direct them Jennifer’s way.

2.  Getting a jump on the next Big Thing in Books is sexy.

Martha Brockenbrough’s new book cover!

I have been reading Martha Brockenbrough’s work since 1998, when her writing was the brightest spot in a dark space of time between 9-5 every day.  I cannot wait to get my copy of Devine Intervention!  June 1 people.  Check out the blurb below from Goodreads, and tell me you don’t want to read more.  No…don’t tell me that.  Because then we can’t be friends anymore.

There is a great legend of the guardian angel who traveled across time and space for the human girl he loved, slaying those who would threaten her with a gleaming sword made of heavenly light.

This is not that story.

Jerome Hancock is Heidi Devine’s guardian angel. Sort of. He’s more of an angel trainee, in heaven’s soul-rehabilitation program for wayward teens. And he’s just about to get kicked out for having too many absences and for violating too many of the Ten Commandments for the Dead.”

3.  Having a beautiful, brilliant, best sisterfriend for 30 years is sexy

Jamie and I have been friends since we were eleven-years-old. She’s more sister than anything else, and I am so proud to know her.

Since Jamie Anne Grimes, my lifelong friend and beauty/brains behind A Dash of Domestic has been teaching me about what it means to be centered in myself, and grounded in my own confidence for thirty years, I’m going to let her tell you what it means to be sexy.

What is sexy?

Sexy can be so many different things.

For me….

dirt underneath the fingernail of my index finger and smeared across my cheek. A ponytail, un stylishly near the very top of my head. Sweat across my brow, one glove on….where the other one went….no one’s quite sure.

This is sexy to me.

I have a vegetable garden. I grow food my family, neighbors, and friends eat.

Plants tended to and grown with love and care by me. Food grown from organic seeds, food that’s pesticide free.

Food I am proud to cook and share.

This is sexy….

being able to provide food for those I care about is sexy.


To follow my garden exploits….click

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Women Worth Knowing: Meet Martha

Ten years ago, I started reading a little column on by Martha Brockenbrough.  The Mommy Chronicles followed her on her journey as a new mother, and from the first read I was a fan.  You see, in the very first article I read Martha’s baby had lost her shoes as they were walking.  Worried about the baby’s tiny feet, Martha contemplated stopping in a bakery to buy warm rolls that would pass for shoes until they got home.  It was exactly the sort of thing my mother would have done.  I was in love.

Soon after, the column turned into a blog and then the blog turned into a book (which I gave to my mother for Mother’s Day one year), and Martha’s fight against bad grammar (through The Society for the Promotion of Good Grammar) took up arms with another Brockenbrough penned book.  She currently writes for’s, Mom’s Homeroom, for’s, Maybe Means Probably Not, and the Chinook Update.  This means it is easy to get a Martha fix.

Full disclosure:  I don’t know Martha Brockenbrough.  I feel like I do, since I’ve been reading about her life for a decade, but she doesn’t know me from Stalker Stan.  What I know of her, I learned through her writing.  Her writing is warm and witty, kind, practical, and honest like a razor cut.  Do you know what I mean?  It is honesty that cuts right to the heart of the matter, and you laugh for a couple of seconds before saying, “Ouch!  I need to address that!”  In other words, the best kind of honesty.  She is exactly the kind of person I would choose for a friend.

Martha’s writing had a great influence on how I viewed my own pregnancy, and her sense of humor about motherhood and her children have had an impact on my experience.  Sadly, even though I am a member of SPOGG, I still haven’t tamed my comma usage.  I will keep reading her, and hopefully one day I will learn not to write exactly the way I speak.

Meet Martha.

Name: Martha Brockenbrough
Age Range: 40s
Preferred Job Title: writer
Industry: publishing

Describe your family: I have a husband, two daughters, and a dog.

What does the first hour of your day look like?

I’m up each day, usually by 5 a.m. Actually, I’m usually up before then. But when I hear the birds start chirping at 5, I give myself permission to get out of bed and start writing. I put on my grandma robe and a pair of fluffy socks and bask in the unhealthy glow of a computer screen. Truly, though, I love this first hour of the day because there is nothing but potential ahead of me. I am not yet a failure! Yes! And if I have a good writing morning, I can savor that the rest of the day, and possibly lord it over other people that I was working when they were drooling into their pillows. Three mornings a week, I hit an early yoga class after my writing hour. That puts the pressure on, but it also releases it. Isn’t that Zen? (Actually, I don’t really know. I just happen to function better when there is a clock running.)

The last hour?

This is when I read in bed or watch TV next to my husband. When I remember, I also like to put coconut body butter on my heels so that I can fight off joining the tribe of the Lizard People for one more day. Honestly, it’s usually a fight to stay awake, but I do want to have the illusion that some part of my day is purely given to relaxation and/or wondering when Mr. Schuster’s finally gonna get some on Glee. Also, I don’t want to follow a kindergartner’s sleep schedule.

What makes you feel successful?

When I see my kids are happy, when I see that they’re kind to other people, and when I see that they feel some responsibility for the world, I feel successful. And by world, I mean the rain forest, homeless kittens, and other such things. If I defined my sense of success on whether they’d made their beds or done their homework carefully, I would start abusing dark chocolate. Also, it’s also nice to be able to pay the bills on time. I’m proud that I’m able to do that as a writer. If I had a nickel for everyone who told me I wouldn’t be able to, I would also be able to pay my bills on time. That’s a win-win, right?

What brings you joy?

There are so many things. I of course get joy from crafting the perfect sentence. But there’s a lot of baggage that goes with that, too–mostly the fear that the rest of my sentences don’t measure up. So I actually probably get more joy out of little things…watching my kids crack each other up, that feeling you get when you’re eating dinner outside on a perfect summer evening, the satisfaction of tossing the dirty towels into the laundry chute without missing…it’s when stuff is going smoothly that I’m happy. God, I really am turning 40, aren’t I?

What women do you admire?

I actually don’t keep a list of famous women I admire. Magazines do that for us, (Hi, Oprah! Call me!) I find myself admiring my friends quite a bit, though. I have a large group of supportive, loving pals, and each one of them juggles many responsibilities, faces challenges–some huge–and keeps getting out of bed every day to be present in the world no matter what, without making special demands or whining. I find it beautiful to watch.

What do you like best about your closest friend?

She has a really nice ass. Oh, but I kid. I mean she does. But honestly, it’s her ability to make me laugh and call me on my baloney.

What do you like best about yourself?

On most days, I’d say it’s my endurance and capacity for hard work. I really don’t give up on things, and it’s nice knowing that I don’t have to be afraid of failure. There’s always another shot. Which is good, because I generally need one.

What advice would you give boys about girls?

If you want to get something done in life, ask a girl to work with you. If you want to be happy, be kind to girls. If you want to be able to respect yourself, respect girls. And if you do anything bad to one of my daughters, I will hunt you down and make you pay.

How do you overcome adversity?

I look at adversity as the thing that will make me better. In other words, it’s not something to overcome. It’s an ally. I ask what I can learn from things that didn’t go as well as I’d hoped. I let go of things that aren’t working for me. And I try to make sure I’m not my own source of adversity–either through self-doubt or procrastination, or any other number of static-creating practices. The truth is, there will always be adversity and each one of us is going to lose the final battle of life. So it’s all about using what we can as leverage to venture as far as our hearts want us to go.

How do you want to be remembered?

As someone you could count on, no matter what.