My coworker/friend and I were comiserating over how exhausting it is to be a mom and work full-time outside the home, and how we struggle to find time to cram everything that has to get done into the nooks and crannies of the day. Like how, this morning, I put my makeup on and fixed my hair during the oven pre-heating process and first 10 minutes of baking of Thor’s lunch (fish sticks…mmm!), then spent the last 10 minutes of baking, cleaning the kitchen and getting breakfast into him.
A few minutes later, my friend calls out to me, “Hey! Gwen Stefani has the same problem we do!”
“What’s that?” I asked. Because I know Gwen Stefani is not struggling with trying find pants that fit nicely, or worrying about having to buy pantyhose for a corporate event.
“She has a hard time fitting in everything she needs to get done in a day–trying to balance work and motherhood.”
I burst out laughing because…nannies, housekeepers, personal assistants, and probably personal chefs. And a husband who also has personal assistants. Do you know how much more I could get done with a full-time housekeeper? Because while my beloved (and oh, they are my Precious) Molly Maids* do a fantastic job of cleaning up what I have missed once a month, do you know how much time it would free up if I didn’t have to think about doing dishes?
But it’s relative. I’m sure Gwennie (who is one of my favorite celebrities, and who is allowed to call me Laney) really does feel the struggle. Her struggles are just different from mine. Whereas my time away from Thor equals three apples per hour, her time away from her kids equals three thousand apples per hour. But at the end of the day, no matter how many apples we have, we both just have 24 hours, and we’re both just trying to make time for our families, while staying on top of everything else that is expected of us.
Which is why, when my alarm went off at 5:45 this morning, instead of getting up and getting going, I went and got Thor out of his bed. I brought him back into mine and gave him snuggles until 6:35. Yes, my hair isn’t gorgeous today, and he’s had more inspired lunches, but he got a nice chunk of time knowing he was loved, wanted, and thought of. I’ll take his smile over great hair any day.
*Hiring Molly Maids is the best thing I have ever done for myself and my family. They are reasonably priced and do a great job. Consider it!